Thursday, November 27, 2008

Penis: How to get it Big, Bigger, Biggest

After the initial arousal, the penis will continue to enlarge and lengthen. At this point, if your man is a grow-er, you won't even recognize what you started out with! The penis has also become super-sensitive by this time, so you want to be careful not to over-stimulate him, or else your sexual connection may end sooner than you expected. One way to monitor how close your man is to that explosive point of no return is to check out his balls. The tighter they look, and the closer they are to his body, the more imminent is his orgasm. To delay this, you should love the other parts of his body between direct oral and manual stimulation.

When the explosive orgasmic moment arrives, the man's heart will be thumping madly as his breathing rate rapidly increases and his muscles tense up.

During the climax, the man experiences about 8 little contractions that occur about one second apart (This is very similar to the physiological changes that women experience in orgasm.) The climax and ejaculation can be accompanied with a large array of emotional and physical responses that signify his release. Some men scream or curse, while others cry or laugh. Some men tremble as if the earth is coming apart.

At this time, your role is, of course, to primarily enjoy yourself, but also to enjoy and extend the intimacy. Be encouraging. If he seems to want to cuddle and kiss and you appreciate what just occurred, go for it.

It's worth noting that not all orgasms will be of the mind-blowing, volcanic variety that everybody dreams of. Sometimes, the orgasm is more of a release than a full experience. Men can get off in about three minutes, but it won't be something that gets them too excited to sleep at night. A law of physics applies here: The longer the action, the stronger the reaction. Remember this: that foreplay is critical to extending the action. You should strive to provide an experience that will stay with him for weeks, months, maybe forever.

CONDOM CAVEATS

Condoms are an imperative part of any sexual relationship. They have two vitally important purposes: to avert pregnancy and to block the spread of disease. If you are part of a secure relationship in which both of you have determined condoms are not necessary, you are fortunate. If you have chosen to avoid intercourse and to stick to the alternatives we suggest, more power to you. However, for those who will be contending with condoms, we provide the following information and advice.

In this modern age, condoms are generally expected and accepted. When determining who you need to use one with, use your common sense. Common sense works best when you are sober and unemotional. Because most women find that they are not always sober and/or unemotional, it is recommended that you set some hard-and-fast rules for yourself. So that if you do find yourself going to bed with someone you don't know completely, there is no question of "Must I?" in your mind. Instead, using a condom will be your first nature.

Penises - A Panacea of Pleasure

It is a mystery how nature came up with so many shapes, sizes and variations of penises. All possibilities were created in nature's penis design book: long and skinny ones, short and fat ones, ones that are thick at the bottom and inverted ones that are thick at the top, as well as a huge array of head shapes.

While all penises have some attractive qualities, those qualities may not be apparent to every person. Therefore, there is a chance that you will come across a penis that you find just disgusting to look at. In this case, keep the lights down and remember your manners.

Just a Trim Around the Edges

The truth about circumcision is this: it does not reduce penis size and it does not change the performance ability of the penis. When the penis is erect, it even looks pretty much the same, circumcised or not. So, while most men in America are circumcised, don't be intimidated if you come across someone that isn't.

It Might Be Worth a Second Glance

Other men, the grow-ers, were created with real-time penises that are small, even tiny- looking, but which grow to relatively amazing lengths at erection time. Of course, it is true that some men are neither show-ers nor significant grow-ers! Being aware of the grow-er/show-er phenomenon can provide you with more insights into that mysterious male psyche. Keep in mind that grow-ers have perhaps had more to 'prove' in life as they have been forced to stand exposed next to other men in many situations (high school gym class, bathrooms etc.) where inevitable comparisons are made. Even if the grow-ers know they can 'measure up' to the show-ers when the time comes, it is still a source of anxiety.

ERECTION EDUCATION

You've been introduced to penis, but what exactly happens to it during sex? The first stage, brought on by excitement, is arousal. You surely know that it doesn't take much to get most men aroused - maybe just a touch, a look, a smell, or even a thought. When becoming aroused, the man's pulse and breathing rate increase, and the penis stiffens. As it stiffens, the entire shaft and head swell up and become larger. During this time, most men report that the head becomes especially sensitive, while others say the section on the underside, just below the head, is the most tender.

Before you even consider pre-judging a man on his penis size, you better know the difference between grow-ers and show-ers. In another mysterious twist, nature created some men with penises that look fairly large all of the time, but which only get a little bigger with an erection. These people are the show-ers.

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Sex and Aging

It is a common belief that as you get older, you lose your sex drive and sexual intimacy is no longer an option. This is a myth and an extremely erroneous one at that. A person’s sex drive may experience some changes as a result of many factors, but it does not necessarily disappear. The factors that affect sex-drive are psychological and physiological in nature. As a rule of thumb, if you have a healthy sex drive when you’re young, you will continue to have a healthy drive well into your senior years; however, if you’re an ice box in your twenties, you can’t expect a dramatic change without a lot of work and motivation.

Sexual Changes with Age

The primary physiological changes that occur in both men and women are due to the change in hormone levels; testosterone levels in men and estrogen levels in women. The gradual decrease in these hormones causes a variety of changes in the physical ability to perform sexually; however, these changes can be overcome with time, patience and communication.

Physiological Changes in Men

For men, these physical changes occur over a period of time. As a man ages, there is a decrease in the amount of circulating testosterone; this stabilizes by about 60 years of age. As a result of this decrease in testosterone levels, it will take a man much longer to achieve a full erectile state. At a young age, a man is able to obtain an erection with visual and mental stimulation; however, as a man ages, he will need more direct manual stimulation in order to achieve the same affect.

There is also a decrease in the length of time a man is able to maintain an erection prior to ejaculation. This is due to a variety of other physical factors that affect blood flow - such as hypertension, diabetes, cardiac arrhythmias, to name a few. There is also a decrease in the force of ejaculation, due to a reduction in the sperm count. The refractory phase of sexual intercourse is also lengthened. It will take a man much longer to have the ability to have another orgasm, usually 12 to 24 hours. This time period increases as a man continues to age.

Another very important fact to remember is the following: If a man discontinues sexual activity in his fifties to sixties, he will have a much greater chance of having impotency problems, versus if he continues sexual activity whereby the chances of impotency are far less.

Physiological Changes in Women

In women, the physiological changes are not as great as for men; however, they can have very negative affects, causing many women to forego sexual activity.

As women age, menopause causes a decrease in estrogen production which lessens the chance of impregnation. This can have psychological effects on some women, which will be discussed further in the next section.

As a result of this decrease in estrogen production, there are some changes that will occur that have the potential for making sexual encounters painful. In general there is atrophy of the vaginal tissue; it loses its elasticity and the tissue begins to thin. There is a decrease in natural lubrication, which will necessitate the use of artificial lubricant. The size of clitoral, vulvar and labial tissue decreases, along with the size of the cervix, uterus and ovaries. However, the sensitivity of the clitoris remains the same as when a woman is younger.

The sexual tension felt prior to an orgasm decreases and the orgasmic contractions are less. These contractions can be painful for some women. The good news: if a woman was multi-orgasmic prior to menopause, she will continue to have the ability to be so.

Psychology Affects Sexual Drive

Many times, what truly affects the sex drive of any individual with age is not the physiological changes, but the psychological issues that arise. There may be a loss of interest due to religious beliefs that state that sexual intimacy is just a means of reproduction. Once a woman loses that ability, she may lose interest in sex as she will not be fulfilling her “religious (reproductive) purpose”.

Some people may experience guilt, especially those who are widowed. They may feel that have sexual encounters with someone other than the person who was their spouse is a form of betrayal. Others will experience guilt because they were brought up feeling that sex was not to be enjoyed. Sociological beliefs indicate that an elderly individual who continues to have a sex drive is “dirty” or un-natural, hence making it difficult for an elderly person to enjoy sex. Often with age, comes the loss of a partner and the inability to find a suitable partner with which a person can enjoy sexual intimacy. Women outnumber men, hence making it difficult for many elderly women to find a suitable partner.

Depression is also a major problem with sexual drive. A depressed person usually has no desire for sexual encounters, and unfortunately many of the medications given to treat depression decrease what little sex drive is left. These are only a few of the many psychological issues that might affect a person’s sex drive when he/she is older.

Conclusion

As you see, there are many factors that might interfere with a person’s drive as age progresses; however, there are many more ways in which an individual can combat these changes and keep a wonderful sex life. The first and foremost important way to fight back is education. It is never too late to learn and the most important thing to do is learn how your body is changing and what you can do about it. Educate yourself on any disease processes you may have and the medications that you are using the treat them. Many medications have side effects that will alter a person’s sex drive.

Another way to keep an enjoyable sex life is to experiment with toys, videos, books and magazines. Toys come in handy, especially now when you need more direct stimulation and time to become fully aroused. There are a variety of vibrators in all different sizes, shapes and colors, all types of add-ons, toys that performs different actions, edible lubricants, and massage oils. There are many different techniques that can be used; from massage and oral stimulation to karma sutra (for those who remain flexible enough and adventurous enough to try).

The psychological problems can be treated by a therapist, or simply with good communication with your partner. If a person is single and is unable to find a suitable partner, there are plenty of ways in which to pleasure one-self. The main point to remember is not to be afraid, take your time and communicate. With the right attitude and approach, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be able to enjoy an active sexual life well into your senior years!