Q. I really enjoy anal stimulation and sex. It is the best way to have the best orgasm as far as I am concerned. I would like to know what I can do to be able to handle larger objects in my ass. An example would be a cucumber. I have such erotic fantasies about this and really want to move on to bigger things! I do not have a problem with a butt plug. The problem I have with trying bigger objects is that I orgasm too quickly. Just the thought of it makes me tingle. Any other advice you can give me???
Wanting to be spread wide in the Midwest
Dear Wanting to be Spread Wide:
So you're a size queen, huh? Honey, I identify with you. I think it's both noble and ambitious that you want to put bigger and bigger things in your ass. My advice is pretty straight forward: work your way up slowly, don't rush it, listen to your body. Use plenty of lube and have patience. If you're using toys, make sure they have flared bases (you don't want to lose anything in your ass) and are smooth. I find that butt plugs are a good way to warm up to larger toys because you can put one in and just leave it in for a little while. Your ass gets used to having something inside it, relaxes, and opens up around the plug. When you take it out, you're ready for more. Some people like more of the in-and-out fucking with fingers or dildos, but that makes me sore more quickly than butt plugs (that's just a personal preference though). Do what works for you. As for the cucumber, well, I have two concerns. Most vegetables are sprayed with pesticides which are difficult to wash off completely; unless it's organic, I wouldn't put it in my ass. Some people have told me that cucumber peels contain a kind of natural substance which is irritating to the rectum and potentially dangerous; I suppose you could get an extra large condom for protection, but I say just stick to sex toys for safety.